Love: More & Better
💗 Love: How to Love More and Better
Love is not just a feeling — it’s a verb; it’s an action: it’s what you do.
Although it’s wonderful to receive love from others, the only thing we can control is how we love others. Love can only grow through our actions is we tend to it like we would a garden. 🌱
Feelings may arrive on their own, but loving is something that needs to be practiced.
It is daily, intentional, and trainable.
💝 Love: The Act of Loving
Love is the act of giving life-affirming energy where life exists.
We love people, animals, plants, and the world by how we show up and by being present. 🌎
Love can look like:
Preparing nourishing food 🥗
Sitting beside someone in grief 🤍
Petting a nervous dog 🐶
Watering a thirsty plant 🌿
Speaking gently when you could speak sharply
Like sunlight ☀️, love helps living things grow toward their best expression.
Whether it’s a living thing or our environment, it can be loved.
💪 Love More. Love Better.
Loving more is not about quantity — it’s about skill. Think of love like a muscle.
You don’t build strength by wishing. You build it by repetition.
We can absolutely become better at loving. Through consistent daily actions, we will see our ability to love become steadier, clearer, and calmer.
Just as we improve our nutrition or physical fitness, we can refine how we care, speak, listen, and respond.
Love is a practice — not a personality trait.
🧘♂️The Training Ground: Start With You
You cannot pour from an empty cup ☕.
You cannot give peace you do not cultivate.
If you want to love a family member or friend more and better, begin inward. You with begin with yourself.
🕊️ Make Peace With Yourself
Make peace with your mistakes and unfinished chapters.
Living in self-judgment makes you reactive.
Peace makes you grounded.
You cannot offer calm while fighting yourself internally.
🌸 Practice Kindness With Yourself
Notice your inner dialogue. Kind mind-chatter yields kind spoken words.
Would you speak to someone you love the way you speak to yourself?
Kindness is not weakness; it stabilizes the nervous system and allows you the time needed to respond in a loving way.
A regulated mind loves more skillfully.
💞 Cultivate Compassion
Self-compassion says, “I see my struggle, and I care enough to want to improve.”
It softens harsh edges and prevents projection onto others.
When we stop attacking ourselves, we stop attacking others.
🧠 Care for Your Physical & Mental Health
Love yourself by tending to illness, stress, trauma, or imbalance.
Seek support when needed.
Nourish your body.
Sleep. Move. Reflect.
When your body and mind are supported and healed, your reactions soften, your patience grows, and your relationships strengthen. With self-care, one is in a better position to maintain emotional, physical, and communicative health with a partner.
Loving relationships reduce stress hormones, lower blood pressure, strengthen immunity, and support heart health ❤️.
Love is not just emotional. It is a biological condition that improves with practice on oneself and on others.
👂 Listen Like It Matters
Listening is love in stillness.
Listen with:
Time ⏳
Silence 🤫
Curiosity 🧐
Hear their words. Notice their tone. Observe their body language.
Even notice the “digs” without immediately defending yourself.
Then, ask yourself, “What pain or fear might be underneath this delivery?”
Listening allows you to temporarily step into their world.
💬 Speak Honestly — Without Harm
WARNING: Love without honesty becomes performance. Honesty without love becomes injury.
Present yourself with:
Calm body language
A steady tone
Clear, simple words
No sarcasm or subtle attacks
Delivery matters. Even nourishing food becomes hard to swallow if we don’t remove the skewers. 🍢
When you practice peace, kindness, and compassion internally, your honesty becomes easier to receive externally.
🛤️ See Them Where They Are
We often love people for who we hope they’ll become. Real love sees who they are today.
Growth has seasons 🌦️. If someone is not ready to hear your message, pushing harder creates resistance.
Meet them at their current capacity — not their potential.
We all have different starting points. Respect their timeline and their progress.
Once we realize that they may have a different growth season than us, we will be in a better position to love them where they are.
🚧 Respect Boundaries
Love without boundaries breeds resentment. Boundaries without love build walls.
Recognize:
Your limits
Their limits
What is yours to carry
What is not
Knowing each other’s boundaries protects the connection while keeping love sustainable and long-lasting.
🎨🎶⚽ Find Their Joy — and Feed It
When you discover what lights someone up, you’ve found the doorway to loving them better.
If they love music — ask about it 🎵
If they love gardening — celebrate their tomatoes 🍅
If they love learning — send them an article 📚
Attention is nourishment. Supporting someone’s joy says, “Your life matters to me.”
🌟 See Their Value
If you truly want to love someone more and better, anchor yourself in their value.
Ask:
How does this person enrich my life?
What unique contribution do they bring to the world?
When you clearly see someone’s worth, loving them becomes a choice rooted in gratitude — not obligation.
Value fuels effort. Make every effort to see their value in this world. When you do so, you’ll have even more reasons to love them more and better.
🔁 Forgiveness: The Reset Button
No one loves perfectly.
Forgiveness, of yourself and others, keeps love moving.
Loving better also means taking responsibility when we hurt someone.
It lowers chronic stress, reduces emotional inflammation, and prevents bitterness from hardening your heart ❤️.
Forgiveness does not erase accountability. It only releases the internal grip of resentment so connection can breathe again.
📝 Reflection Practice
Consider journaling:
Where am I hardest on myself, and how might that affect how I love others?
Who in my life needs more listening from me right now?
What boundary would protect my ability to love sustainably?
Reflection builds awareness. Awareness builds change.
When you choose to improve, you need to know who you are and who you want to be.
🧭 Your Daily Loving Phrase
Each morning, write one loving sentence to yourself and read it to yourself. Like signing a contract, using your own handwriting and reading it makes your daily message personal.
Examples:
“Today I will practice loving with peace, clarity, and courage.”
“I choose to see value before reacting.”
“I nourish myself so I can nourish others.”
Or use this:
“Today will be the day I love myself and others better and more.”
Love is not abstract. It is a daily practice.
Like tending soil, what you nurture consistently is what blooms. 🌹🌸🌺🌷🌻🌼